Abra la puerta, that fresh new wind is blowing

A teacher forced me to kiss her in high school. She had been grading everyone on their responses to Spanish commands: “abra la puerta” and someone opened a door. To another student, “cierra la ventana.” Then she looked at me and said, “Alano…besame.” I loved the language and excelled in class, but was stupefied and surely misheard. I asked for clarification. “Besame,” she repeated. This was for a class participation grade so, embarrassed, I got up and walked past all my chuckling classmates to the front of the room Read more “Abra la puerta, that fresh new wind is blowing”

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Here in the shade

When I finally noticed her, she didn’t glance away. Her stance gave me the impression that she had been glaring at me for a while.

You see, the crammed In-N-Out didn’t have bathrooms; none of the restaurants did. They relied upon public restrooms located in an alley next to a segue rental, which spilled wide-eyed tourists into the alleyway, rolling around at the speed of newborn turtles.

We had deftly dodged the segues and keyed-in the code to the bathroom as a haggard voice in waders sing-songed the numbers to us like some boardwalk siren. He sat there and smoked and offered everyone the secret combination, irrespective of their patron status. I thought it funny he waited in waders. Read more “Here in the shade”

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The Infantilization of Women and a Theology of Aging (Getting Age Wrong Part 2)

Click here to see part 1: “Growing Up Way Too Fast.

THE INFANTILIZATION OF WOMEN

If you’ve never heard of the “infantilization” of women, allow me to introduce you; it is an incredible phenomenon by which our society systemically equates femininity with things like vulnerability, submission, uncertainty, and childhood.  To be womanly today is to be, in many senses, infantile (cf Codes of Gender).

We see the effects of this social game played out in our efforts to mask age all the time; dyeing hair, liposuction, face-lifts, plastic surgery, anti-aging cream, hormonal injections, lying at a birthday party.  We want to appear younger, and our desire to do so is hardly “vain” or “shallow;” it makes all too perfect sense in a culture that vilifies old age. Read more “The Infantilization of Women and a Theology of Aging (Getting Age Wrong Part 2)”

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